Limiting Beliefs!

 

The way we think is the main factor that influences how well we can do things, especially in life as humans. We often have different thoughts and emotions. What I believe in makes me happy, but others don’t believe it and they end up in a bad situation. It is important to understand why others believe something instead of you, so you can then decide whether or not to believe it, to begin with.

One of the most common misconceptions about believing and believing is this is not necessarily true. When we believe something, it means that we are always right. If we follow this belief without questioning it because of what other people may experience, we will end up living lives that have no meaning because we won’t be able to believe if anything else besides what our own opinion says would happen. When we say “I’m strong,” we aren’t saying that we are physically robust, but rather it has nothing to do with what we’re actually capable of doing. No one really knows anything about any of the thousands of other ways we could accomplish a task of some sort. It might feel like there’s nothing more to know than the truth, yet, many know something quite opposite. These mindsets could potentially hold our lives in their hands.

Many of us have ‘limiting beliefs.’ We believe something holds up above all else when it doesn’t really, and usually that something isn’t good for us. My limiting belief is that I need my best friend (or someone who could potentially become one) to have everything it takes to be happy, and I also need help finding happiness. When I let that belief get in the way of my happiness and ability to succeed in life, I only become miserable and unhappy. That’s why limiting beliefs are important, to keep these types of opinions from being part of our future.

Believing is a big component of growing up. You want to grow up quickly so that you can achieve your goals, learn more about the world around you, get closer to the person that you love, and most of all grow up a better human being. So, whenever I start feeling unproductive or sad about something in life, I find myself trying to convince myself that I’m either just not thinking clearly, or everything I want is out of reach. To avoid feeling down or even depressed about what happened in my life, I try to convince myself that nothing bad ever happened to me, because I never did something so horrible that it made me feel like that. Even though I didn’t do anything stupid, no one ever did. Everything that happens to me ends because I made the decision to be the best version of myself possible rather than putting all my focus on things that were beyond my control. Most of the time that won’t happen because, after every day, I get to decide if it’s worth giving everything I’ve got to give and not dwelling on the past. And even if I’m lucky enough to go through those days, I think it’s okay to not know that I’m never going to get over the loss of something awful again.

The next step in growing up is learning to deal with negative self-talk. We make more negative choices throughout childhood, especially when we’re upset. This kind of behavior is called “disinhibition,” in which we choose not to do something that needs to be done, simply because we’re having trouble getting ourselves out of a bad mood. Self-discipline or self-control is a must in order to be successful long-term, not a short-term fix. You have the power to change someone’s life for the better when you start taking small steps toward changing the belief system at the root. It’s easy to give them a lecture about the way things are supposed to be, but it doesn’t help anything. Learning how to work with yourself from your heart will eventually lead to happiness and success. Take the first step in becoming a happier, more fulfilled individual. You can do this by starting to believe what you want to see. For example: when I was a teenager I felt extremely low about myself, and I wanted to pretend it wasn’t there. As soon as I started speaking to a trusted adult about it, I realized I didn’t actually feel like that, and talking to a professional about it took away my biggest source of sadness. If I don’t have confidence, can get along with people well, and know I have the power to improve those areas of my life, then I can be confident in my abilities and talents. Then this is much easier to pull off because it requires less judgment from others as well. And if I can put myself first, rather than worrying about what will happen and whether you’ll have the opportunity to reach your goals, then you probably will.

As I said, limiting beliefs is powerful. They allow people to express themselves and share feelings that some might not want to hear out loud, while still keeping their opinions safe and private. Just because our thoughts don’t agree with one another, it doesn’t mean that opinions that come from each of us aren’t worth hearing. People have different opinions, but they are all valid and valid. One day we all will look back and realize that our thoughts were different from anyone else’s. All of us grew up differently, even in the same room with the same adults, and now that we live in many separate cultures than before, it’s easy to learn that. But it doesn’t stop others from expressing themselves either. There are always exceptions, and sometimes it helps to surround ourselves with those who make decisions and those who don’t. By making the effort to connect with others who look like you, you’ll begin to learn from their experiences and what motivates them. You’ll also begin to build relationships that will serve you well in the long run because you already know where you stand with other people before they’re gone. As we move forward through life, even if you don’t believe in everything others say, try to take that as a positive signal that your opinions agree with something you believe in. Don’t believe everything your mind tells you, but you will eventually have a stronger mind and believe you’re better than some of the thoughts you might be inclined to believe. Because once you believe something, you’re a little bit stronger than the rest.